Ladies, how many times do we have to explain to men we are not as complicated as they make us out to be? It is as if they refuse to listen to what we say and would rather analyze everything we say and do as if we are speaking in codes. True, there used to be a time when we had that reputation because it was a fact; we did speak in codes, only because when we did speak, we felt like we are not being heard. We tell a man exactly what we need to fill satisfied, and in turn, the man runs around and does everything else except for what we told them to do. Then, they look as us like WE ARE the confused ones! Hence we developed “the codes” for the sake of our own sanity.
Then, there are some of you ladies who still try to be deliberately confusing by using the “old skool” fashioned way of running circles around the guy’s head with words and phrases that even you yourself do not understand, and thinking it’s funny. Stop that. Nobody can understand you unless you are straight-forward and to the point. There is no need to confuse the guy and then say “he does not understand me”. Of course he doesn’t. Would you? Make up your mind before you speak. And please, think carefully before you make up your mind, too.
Also, do not think of your man as a “baby”. He is not a child. He can think, walk, and hopefully talk for himself. We women tend to use our mothering skills on a man, and then wonder why he cowards away in the corner. It is okay to meet his basic needs, and even spoil him once in a while, but remember you are playing with fire. If he gets too comfortable with your mothering ways, he will expect it all the time. You will have a robot out of him. The minute you change, he will change. Always treat him in a consistent, stable manner and neither one of you will be scratching your heads at the end of the day trying to figure out why you two are at each other’s throats so often.
Ladies, I hope this makes sense. Let’s stop the games.
© 2013 Learus Ohnine