I feel everyone needs time to themselves to reflect on themselves. I try to do this at least once a month; take one whole day to do nothing but just find a quiet space, relax and think. I think: am I growing as an individual, or am I satisfied with where I’m at already? What needs improvement? What needs to be discarded? The keyword here is: balance.
I believe we all need to asses our growth potential. Never settle with just being mediocre. Each day we wake up, we should strive to see how we can be a better person than we were the day before. Search for one more person to help than you did yesterday. Give your undivided attention to one more person than you did the day before. Let one more person go ahead of you in the store or while driving on the street than you did yesterday. Make an effort to seek out one more person you can compliment than the day before. Be friendly to someone other than only those who are friendly to you. How does that saying go: “kill ’em with kindness”? You will be surprised at how much better you feel by helping, giving, and being friendly to someone who doesn’t deserve it.
On the flipside, being helpful, generous, and friendly can attract trouble your way. Try to be on alert for those that take more than they give. By all means, cut these people off. They may get upset or seriously angry at you for doing this, but that’s not your problem and do not let them try to make it your problem. Shake it off and don’t let them try to put you on a guilt trip for doing what’s right. Remember the keyword, balance? Get rid of that mindset of feeling responsible to someone who selfishly wants what they want but does not want to do the work it takes to get it. Your time is precious on this earth; don’t waste it on worthless endeavors. Always keep your focus on the future. Forget the people who have wronged you, and forgive them for your own peace of mind. A healthy state of mind is priceless. Don’t mourn over “dead” people.
Do an honest assessment of yourself. If there’s something that needs to be fixed, fix it. If its unfixable, accept it. Make the best of your life.
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