Change

“Change is too scary.”
Change is certain. (Our bodies, our circumstances, our friends, our children, our neighborhoods, our minds, our commitments, our views, our desires). When something is changing when we don’t want it to change, the best thing we can do is change our minds and catch up to it.

When we don’t want to face the changes, its because a part of us is addicted to “the old”, and part of us is scared of the unknown. We get too comfortable in our current situation. When you know you’ve done the right thing yet you’re longing for the old thing, it gets confusing. You always have to give your soul time to catch up with your spirit.

Believe this new change is going to be better than what you’re letting go of.

God will not leave you helpless. Whenever you think you’re alone, you’re not alone. He is watching you, watching over you, standing by you, and guiding your every step along the way. He is NEVER late.

God will give you favor and He will make a way for you, but you first have to be happy with where you’re already at. Don’t be afraid things will never change. Be happy, be grateful, and be content no matter where you’re at, because God has a plan…

“Change is impossible for me.”
Sometimes God will call you to do something, and the timing does seem a little confusing as to when it is supposed to happen. Be courageous about it. Be bold and aggressive about it. Be “violent” about it. DON’T be afraid to step out of your comfort zone to find out if you heard God correctly. The kingdom of God has suffered violence, but it was only the violent women and men of God who took back their reign in that kingdom.

Don’t be terrified of what “man” can do to you! Open your mouth and say what God says, not what “man” says. Knowledge of the Word. is valuable. The power of life and death is in the tongue. The Word is your weapon. Its not good enough to just know the Word, you have to learn how to speak the Word – how to live the Word – how to breathe the Word. Let the Word fight your battles for you. Take up your sword and use it to cut the enemy to pieces with The Word!

NOBODY is a failure. The only one who is a failure is the one who quits trying! Don’t let making a mistake be the end of your life. Nobody is perfectly led by the Holy Spirit.

“I don’t want things to change, because I might fail again.”
Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of the heart.
There are some things you wanted so badly that you went out of your way to get it, then once you got it, you wished with all your heart you never had it. If you don’t get what you want, then that means you’re not supposed to have it.

Maybe there’s some things in your life that you’ve been dragging around with you that have been “dead” for a very long time, but you still can’t seem to let go of them. Paralyzing fears such as the fear of hurting someone’s feelings or the fear of being alone stops you from removing that dead weight. You are so much better off to spend some nights alone than to let that person continue to keep poisoning your life.

If God doesn’t move something or someone out of your life when you want it out, its because He has it there for a greater purpose.

The fear of being hurt or of being taken advantage of is paralyzing; it stops us from following where God wants takes us. Don’t let these fears control you. Don’t be afraid of being hurt, because it will happen at some point in your life. Put your faith in God. Say “God I’m going to trust you”… and He will teach you how IF you will stop trying to protect yourself.

And so what if you get hurt? We live with the Healer inside of us anyway. đŸ˜‰

So STOP trying to take care of yourself and let God be God!

©2013 Learus Ohnine

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Something to think about: “Walls were Made to be Broken” (part 4) The Demolition Process

Hopefully by now, you have uncovered which walls need your immediate attention and which walls do not. I would suggest beginning the demolition process on any wall that is causing an immediate hindrance to your daily living, such as anything that is interfering with your peace of mind. Nothing compares to enjoying life with a healthy state of mind. Remember – you only get one life; it is better to make the most of the time you have to spend on this earth than to waste it and regret it later.

So on to the demolition…

The demolition process basically starts off following the same procedures for both Conscious and Unconscious Walls. The only difference is the amount of time it takes to completely destroy them. That time is determined by factors such as when that wall was placed there and who put it there. For example: an Unconscious Wall that has been built by an authority figure, such as a parental figure, a lover, or whomever you have depended on for emotional support and approval, may take years to demolish simply because it has been ingrained inside your heart and mind as a necessity for survival. Let’s say, for instance, a child who grows up in an environment that is unsympathetic and is full of callousness may have had to learn to adapt to that kind of situation by becoming so thick-skinned that they do not know how to love or be loved. They reject anyone who comes across as caring and sympathetic, or the total opposite, because they do not recognize that real love and are only receptive to people who resemble the authority figures of the environment they have grown up in. They will recreate their childhood environment because that IS their comfort zone. It may take years before this person can make a successful personal transformation, but it is not impossible.

So let’s begin with a less challenging wall to destroy: the Conscious Wall. Just a quick recall, a Conscious Wall is one that is derived from a realistic fear stemmed from an illogical belief. Examples of this would be along the lines of stereotyping: ALL marriages end in divorce, ALL blondes are dimwitted, ALL males are cheaters, and ALL women are not as intelligent as a man, and so on. Plenty can be said about the stereotyping of gender, sexual preference, and races but I will not get too deep into those details. When stereotype a person, place or thing, we will react to them according to what we feel is appropriate, and that includes avoidance. Keep in mind it is healthy and wise to avoid something or someone we know for a fact is not in our best interest. However, stereotyping is not based on facts. Stereotyping is based on opinion and does not necessarily mean one part applies to the whole, if you catch my drift.

But how do we debunk any hypothetical stereotyping beliefs we may have?

Get out there and find out for yourself. Be realistic; nobody is perfect. We all have flaws, hang-ups, etc., but is that not what makes us all unique? None of our personal flaws may have anything to do with our gender, our cultural background, or our sexual preference.  The funny thing about social networking, such as Facebook, Twitter, Linked-In, etc., is we all can be whoever we want to be behind the screen, but it is the words that we speak that will be noticed by others first. We do not see a face, a race, or a gender unless we post a profile picture, and even that sometimes is not always truthful. The bottom line is: you will never know what you are missing until you get to know the character of a person. Drop everything that you have heard and read about a gender, a culture, or a sexual preference and just meet a variety of people from all, and I do mean ALL, walks of life and from any and every category. Remember, you yourself fall into one or more categories. Would you want someone to discriminate against you without giving you a fair chance?

 

© 2013 Learus Ohnine