One of the most important things to understand when dealing with a sociopath/psychopath is you must know their language. You must be able to understand the meaning behind each word they speak in order to understand them. Almost everything they say has a varied meaning from the norm. They use common everyday terms to express themselves, just like anyone else, but their definitions of certain keywords and phrases are eccentrically different from its originally intended implication.
Below lists just a few phrases most sociopaths/psychopaths use when trying to lure (and keep) their victims. Under each phrase will be the real meaning behind what the phrase means for the sociopath/psychopath when it is spoken. All these phrases are familiar phrases and are spoken by the sociopath/psychopath with the intent to misguide you into believing their motives for you are pure, true, and genuine:
Here it is….
1) “I Love You”
Meaning: “You give me a rush at the moment”
2) “You Love Me”
Meaning: “You forego your needs to bend to my will”
3) “Trust Me”
Meaning: “What a sucker!”
4) “You’re the man/woman of my life”
Meaning: “You are one of a long indefinite sequence of women/men that’s also simultaneous”
5) “Mutual Fidelity”
Meaning: “YOU need to be faithful to me, while I cheat on you…”
Meaning: “You dared to disapprove of something I did, or, you disobeyed me in some respect”
7) “Mutual Commitment”
Meaning: “You need to revolve everything in your life around me, and do exactly what I want”
Meaning: “My truth, or, saying whatever it takes to get me what I want at the moment”
9) “I Miss You”
Meaning: “I miss the function you used to play in my life, because I’m a little bored right now…”
10) “What My Baby Wants, My Baby Gets”
Meaning: “I will give you attention, flattery, and gifts until I hook you emotionally and gain your trust. Afterwards, you’re on your own!”
This last phrase, the most important most common phrase sociopaths/psychopaths use on victims more frequently than we would like to believe (or notice) is the most crucial phrase of them all to remember… a major red flag to watch for:
11) “I cheated because my (insert name here) does not satisfy me”
Meaning: “…and neither will you.”
Bonus Tip!: Whenever you question any of the above phrases, watch them change the subject quickly. VERY quickly. They might flip through several subjects at once. This is what they mean by a “flow” when they speak. That flow is meant to distract you from thinking logically, critically, and reasonably. You will be hit with so many topics at once that you began to feel mentally overwhelmed. When we are mentally overwhelmed, we lose focus. And there it is; a distraction tactic designed perfectly by them for you.
Regardless of your response, they’re not paying one bit of attention to what you’re saying because they are too busy reading your body language to see if their distraction technique is working. They can sense this within the first few moments of your response. If they sense the new topic is not distracting enough, that is when they “zone out” and begin thinking of another topic that seemed to pull a more desired response from you. Usually, they will choose a subject that was never settled during an earlier confrontation in order to cause confusion over getting you to think about not only one, but two unresolved issues at once now. Keyword here: distraction.
Another method they may use will be to focus on some insignificant word in what you have said, such as one that can be understood to have more than one meaning, and will try to start a debate about that particular word’s instead of the meaning of the entire sentence. Their game of confusion begins, until you are frustrated with trying make them understand the definition of the word, you begin to lose focus on the point you were trying to make. Again, this is a form of distraction.
Be safe, be careful, be alert…
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